We hear so much about what compatibility factors to look for in a relationship. Just Google it and you will come up with lots of articles and loads of information. Let's do a study on what compatibility factors God considers most important.
At the end of Genesis 24, we found out that Abraham’s brother had kids. He was directed by the Holy Spirit to choose one of his relatives as a suitable wife for Isaac.
What type of women occupied the land of Canaan?
The Canaanite women were polytheistic and did not share the same values as Abraham’s relatives. If we jump to Genesis 26, we discover that the Canaanite women were a cause of much vexation to Isaac and Rebecca. In other words, they had the type of character that caused strife, discord, and irritation in what was once a peaceful camp. Jezebel (1 Kings) was from Canaan and was considered a prototype of the personality you would find among those women. She was a manipulative, deceiving, controlling woman. She also murdered people in cold blood.
How were the women from Abraham’s family different than the Canaanite women?
Abraham's relatives were aware of the one true God. However, they were not in covenant nor were anywhere near as intimate with Him. Sarah is a glowing example of the women from that family. She was faithful to Abraham and worked very hard beside him as first lady of their caravan. Most importantly, as a couple, they shared the same dreams and were committed to parenting a son. To ensure a lasting and happy marriage, both husband and wife must be devoted to each other, united in purpose, and worship the same God. It is the only way to continue the covenant of blessing to the next generation.
What is the lesson here?
When looking for a spouse, it is necessary to find someone who is compatible with and your calling in life. This is what God directed Abraham to do for his son. It is what God directs us to do today.
2 Corinthians 6:14-15 NLT, ‘Don’t team up with those who are unbelievers. How can righteousness be a partner with wickedness? How can light live with darkness? What harmony can there be between Christ and the devil? How can a believer be a partner with an unbeliever?’
Father, I thank You for the wisdom Your Word contains. Because of the examples you have outlined for me, I know what compatibility factors to look for in my spouse. They must worship You, be devoted to me, be a hard worker, share the same dreams, committed to the same goals, and be united in purpose. Together, we will continue the blessing of covenant to the next generation. In Jesus Name, Amen.